You Won't Be The Same Person In 6 Months (How To Conquer Anything)

"Cherish your visions and your dreams as they are the children of your soul, the blueprints of your ultimate achievements." - Napoleon Hill

People are living on autopilot.

Everyone has adhered to societal expectations etched into their minds since youth.

It wasn’t exactly easy, either.

You’ve become who you are today through hard work, refined over time through trial and resilience.

Like a toddler stumbling before mastering the art of walking, relentless practice shapes our abilities.

However, societal pressures don't cease with childhood conquests. Just like we strived to learn to walk, we’ve strived for lucrative careers and learned expectations for relationships and education. Most interpret life's nuances solely through these predefined benchmarks, unknowingly leading to an ordinary existence.

The masses unwittingly tread this path, their mental frameworks growing more entrenched with age.

99% of people are honing their skills to achieve desires shaped by society.

99% of people are programming their minds to want what they were taught to want.

It takes so much effort to be successful in the eyes of society.

Interestingly, once programmed, success is inevitable and materializes in an intricate structure intertwined within our identity, perspective, and perception.

Want what you want – for wanting sake.

My aim? To rouse awareness of the systems in place that shape your desires and foster your conscious pursuit toward automatic success in the endeavors that bring you freedom — not just societal celebration.

Unveiling Fulfillment: A Revolutionary Approach to Setting Goals

Mastering life largely involves setting personal goals, unlike many who blindly adhere to societal expectations.

If you don’t choose your goals, someone will choose them for you.

99% of people lack clear goals and fear making mistakes.

Society has convinced you that the relationship they're in, the job you have, and retiring at 65 is “good enough” for you when it’s far from what you really want.

This stunts personal growth and keeps you right where they want you – on the hamster wheel. Read more about the hamster wheel in this Letter From Lou.

If you observe closely, there are two type of people in the world:

1. Those who value certainty over personal growth

2. Those who value personal growth over certainty

Who do you think is more fulfilled?

Unclear personal goals breed assumptions about the future and unmet expectations, while minimizing a sense of self-responsibility over personal actions and experiences.

If unclear personal goals don’t result in growth or fulfillment it begs the question — what are you getting out of your time on that hamster wheel?

You get satisfaction from knowing what is going to happen next because it’s already happened 100x before.

The paycheck will hit your bank on Friday.

Your friends will be at the bar on Saturday.

You’ll have time for routine sex on Sunday afternoon.

Neglected personal goals allow detrimental habits to persist unchecked, while prioritized personal goals override indulgence in negative habits.

When you properly prioritize personal goals, it’s easy to “forget” about engaging in detrimental habits because temptation is overridden by the need to fulfill your responsibilities. Focusing on goals outweighs the inclination to indulge in negative behaviors or habits.

The (Free) System That Helps You Achieve Your Goals

Humans love goals.

Achievement is synonymous with survival.

This shit is in our DNA.

Thus, our minds are woven with conscious and subconscious goals, each with systems to achieve them.

From infancy, biological goals like walking and eating seamlessly integrate due to practice, forming efficient systems.

Cultural goals, shaped by upbringing, influence conformity and safety within a specific culture.

The cookie-cutter relationship, the white picket fence, the sexy job title - these are the subconscious goals that have had you making life choices on autopilot.

Transforming oneself necessitates reshaping the mind's goals through education and experience, challenging societal imprints.

Their subconscious systems are not working for them and it’s manifesting as:

• Drinking too much

• An old eating disorder resurfacing

• Indifference to the happiness (or lack-there-of) in a relationship

This is where I typically find the high-achievers with low self-esteem when we meet.

You don’t know what you really want – but you know it’s not this (what you have).

However, the only systems you have in place are:

1. Want more of what you already have enough of

2. Be grateful for what you have even though you never wanted it

Our society doesn’t teach us to have an original thought, let alone an original desire or personal goal.

Being grateful for what you have when wanting what you have was someone else's idea all along can only sustain your fulfillment for so long.

The mind then throws a hail-mary, the last-resort attempt at salvation – it focuses on what you don’t have.

It creates a negative spiral so destructive and depressing that you simply must do something about it.

It’s the anti-aging marketing tactic: we’re convinced that we are unhappy because we don’t have youthful skin – to the point where we spend thousands of dollars to have it.

What you focus on will be your reality and, therefore, your identity (ie. you’re old with wrinkles) until you’re forced to change in order to be happy (ie. get botox).

Your identity, a composition of ideas, beliefs, and values, acts as a filter for your viewpoint.

Think of your perspective as a camera lens: adjustable, able to focus sharply or broadly.

This viewpoint shapes how you perceive situations, filtering information based on your beliefs and values.

Your mind instinctively accepts or rejects information aligned with its programmed goals.

For instance, if you’ve been programmed that drinking is associated with connection and fun, a simple “want to go for a drink?” prompts dopamine to influence your decision making and head to the bar.

Similarly, if your personal goal is to drink less, your focus (and your google searches) will shift toward seeking sober-friendly and sober-curious content and relationships.

Our actions continually reinforce our prevailing identity, often leading to predictable outcomes.

To change your life's trajectory, alter your identity and reshape your life's course by creating personal goals.

Your mind, your free and very customizable internal success system, can and will help you achieve your goals.

From Mediocre to Mastery: How to Conquer Anything

In an utterly terrifying and life-changing experience, I’ve been reading the book “10x is Easier than 2x” and it’s obliterating my limiting thinking.

The concept of the book is that achieving at the extraordinary rate of 10x is actually easier than achieving at the ordinary rate of 2x.

It begs us to cut the bullshit 80% of our lives that do not fuel our authentic wants and personal goals.

How?

Meaningful events thrive at the boundary of the known. Stepping into the unknown sparks new understanding, allowing you to utilize fresh knowledge.

Choose personal growth over certainty.

Becoming who you aspire to be is challenging yet rewarding.

With that, let’s discuss how to master almost anything as you set out toward becoming a new you:

1. Want For Wanting Sake:

We’re taught to be grateful for what we have, that our “wishful thinking” is grandiose and threatens our happiness when in fact it threatens our potential.

My life began again when I stopped to ask myself, “though what you have is wonderful, is it what you really want??”

I think this is why people come to me when they find themselves in the confusion of “I don’t know what I want – but I know it’s not this (what I have)”.

I’ve been there, understand where they are coming from, and won’t judge them for wanting more or different when what they already have is amazing and privileged by societal standards.

When is the last time you let yourself want for wanting sake?

If there’s one time of year that we are inspired by culture to dream it’s at the turn of the new year.

This year, I want you to take your fantasy as far as it can go.

Grant yourself the space to explore new aspirations by casting an anchor into uncharted territory.

Craft an ambitious goal that illuminates the unknown.

This grand goal isn't set for practicality or mere accomplishment; it's aimed at fostering vision, guiding your path, and sieving through potential opportunities.

There is no room for judgment here; let yourself want it because you want it without needing rational or reasoning.

Make this goal irresistibly compelling.

• If you possessed unlimited wealth, how would your daily routine unfold?

• What environment resonates with you? Is there a particular place or travel experience you desire? 

• Do you envision a family? Paint a vivid picture of what that life entails, envisioning a typical day spent together. 

• What work hours best suit you? If you had total freedom, what profession would you pursue? 

• Describe your desired appearance and well-being. Envision your body, energy levels, and the image you wish to portray. 

• How would your perfect day be structured? Outline each hour of an ideal day. 

• Compile any additional thoughts about the life you desire.

"Cherish your visions and your dreams as they are the children of your soul, the blueprints of your ultimate achievements." - Napoleon Hill

People are living on autopilot.

Everyone has adhered to societal expectations etched into their minds since youth.

It wasn’t exactly easy, either.

You’ve become who you are today through hard work, refined over time through trial and resilience.

Like a toddler stumbling before mastering the art of walking, relentless practice shapes our abilities.

However, societal pressures don't cease with childhood conquests. Just like we strived to learn to walk, we’ve strived for lucrative careers and learned expectations for relationships and education. Most interpret life's nuances solely through these predefined benchmarks, unknowingly leading to an ordinary existence.

The masses unwittingly tread this path, their mental frameworks growing more entrenched with age.

99% of people are honing their skills to achieve desires shaped by society.

99% of people are programming their minds to want what they were taught to want.

It takes so much effort to be successful in the eyes of society.

Interestingly, once programmed, success is inevitable and materializes in an intricate structure intertwined within our identity, perspective, and perception.

Want what you want – for wanting sake.

My aim? To rouse awareness of the systems in place that shape your desires and foster your conscious pursuit toward automatic success in the endeavors that bring you freedom — not just societal celebration.

Unveiling Fulfillment: A Revolutionary Approach to Setting Goals

Mastering life largely involves setting personal goals, unlike many who blindly adhere to societal expectations.

If you don’t choose your goals, someone will choose them for you.

99% of people lack clear goals and fear making mistakes.

Society has convinced you that the relationship they're in, the job you have, and retiring at 65 is “good enough” for you when it’s far from what you really want.

This stunts personal growth and keeps you right where they want you – on the hamster wheel. Read more about the hamster wheel in this Letter From Lou.

If you observe closely, there are two type of people in the world:

1. Those who value certainty over personal growth

2. Those who value personal growth over certainty

Who do you think is more fulfilled?

Unclear personal goals breed assumptions about the future and unmet expectations, while minimizing a sense of self-responsibility over personal actions and experiences.

If unclear personal goals don’t result in growth or fulfillment it begs the question — what are you getting out of your time on that hamster wheel?

You get satisfaction from knowing what is going to happen next because it’s already happened 100x before.

The paycheck will hit your bank on Friday.

Your friends will be at the bar on Saturday.

You’ll have time for routine sex on Sunday afternoon.

Neglected personal goals allow detrimental habits to persist unchecked, while prioritized personal goals override indulgence in negative habits.

When you properly prioritize personal goals, it’s easy to “forget” about engaging in detrimental habits because temptation is overridden by the need to fulfill your responsibilities. Focusing on goals outweighs the inclination to indulge in negative behaviors or habits.

The (Free) System That Helps You Achieve Your Goals

Humans love goals.

Achievement is synonymous with survival.

This shit is in our DNA.

Thus, our minds are woven with conscious and subconscious goals, each with systems to achieve them.

From infancy, biological goals like walking and eating seamlessly integrate due to practice, forming efficient systems.

Cultural goals, shaped by upbringing, influence conformity and safety within a specific culture.

The cookie-cutter relationship, the white picket fence, the sexy job title - these are the subconscious goals that have had you making life choices on autopilot.

Transforming oneself necessitates reshaping the mind's goals through education and experience, challenging societal imprints.

Their subconscious systems are not working for them and it’s manifesting as:

• Drinking too much

• An old eating disorder resurfacing

• Indifference to the happiness (or lack-there-of) in a relationship

This is where I typically find the high-achievers with low self-esteem when we meet.

You don’t know what you really want – but you know it’s not this (what you have).

However, the only systems you have in place are:

1. Want more of what you already have enough of

2. Be grateful for what you have even though you never wanted it

Our society doesn’t teach us to have an original thought, let alone an original desire or personal goal.

Being grateful for what you have when wanting what you have was someone else's idea all along can only sustain your fulfillment for so long.

The mind then throws a hail-mary, the last-resort attempt at salvation – it focuses on what you don’t have.

It creates a negative spiral so destructive and depressing that you simply must do something about it.

It’s the anti-aging marketing tactic: we’re convinced that we are unhappy because we don’t have youthful skin – to the point where we spend thousands of dollars to have it.

What you focus on will be your reality and, therefore, your identity (ie. you’re old with wrinkles) until you’re forced to change in order to be happy (ie. get botox).

Your identity, a composition of ideas, beliefs, and values, acts as a filter for your viewpoint.

Think of your perspective as a camera lens: adjustable, able to focus sharply or broadly.

This viewpoint shapes how you perceive situations, filtering information based on your beliefs and values.

Your mind instinctively accepts or rejects information aligned with its programmed goals.

For instance, if you’ve been programmed that drinking is associated with connection and fun, a simple “want to go for a drink?” prompts dopamine to influence your decision making and head to the bar.

Similarly, if your personal goal is to drink less, your focus (and your google searches) will shift toward seeking sober-friendly and sober-curious content and relationships.

Our actions continually reinforce our prevailing identity, often leading to predictable outcomes.

To change your life's trajectory, alter your identity and reshape your life's course by creating personal goals.

Your mind, your free and very customizable internal success system, can and will help you achieve your goals.

From Mediocre to Mastery: How to Conquer Anything

In an utterly terrifying and life-changing experience, I’ve been reading the book “10x is Easier than 2x” and it’s obliterating my limiting thinking.

The concept of the book is that achieving at the extraordinary rate of 10x is actually easier than achieving at the ordinary rate of 2x.

It begs us to cut the bullshit 80% of our lives that do not fuel our authentic wants and personal goals.

How?

Meaningful events thrive at the boundary of the known. Stepping into the unknown sparks new understanding, allowing you to utilize fresh knowledge.

Choose personal growth over certainty.

Becoming who you aspire to be is challenging yet rewarding.

With that, let’s discuss how to master almost anything as you set out toward becoming a new you:

1. Want For Wanting Sake:

We’re taught to be grateful for what we have, that our “wishful thinking” is grandiose and threatens our happiness when in fact it threatens our potential.

My life began again when I stopped to ask myself, “though what you have is wonderful, is it what you really want??”

I think this is why people come to me when they find themselves in the confusion of “I don’t know what I want – but I know it’s not this (what I have)”.

I’ve been there, understand where they are coming from, and won’t judge them for wanting more or different when what they already have is amazing and privileged by societal standards.

When is the last time you let yourself want for wanting sake?

If there’s one time of year that we are inspired by culture to dream it’s at the turn of the new year.

This year, I want you to take your fantasy as far as it can go.

Grant yourself the space to explore new aspirations by casting an anchor into uncharted territory.

Craft an ambitious goal that illuminates the unknown.

This grand goal isn't set for practicality or mere accomplishment; it's aimed at fostering vision, guiding your path, and sieving through potential opportunities.

There is no room for judgment here; let yourself want it because you want it without needing rational or reasoning.

Make this goal irresistibly compelling.

• If you possessed unlimited wealth, how would your daily routine unfold?

• What environment resonates with you? Is there a particular place or travel experience you desire? 

• Do you envision a family? Paint a vivid picture of what that life entails, envisioning a typical day spent together. 

• What work hours best suit you? If you had total freedom, what profession would you pursue? 

• Describe your desired appearance and well-being. Envision your body, energy levels, and the image you wish to portray. 

• How would your perfect day be structured? Outline each hour of an ideal day. 

• Compile any additional thoughts about the life you desire.

If you don’t know what you want but know what you don’t want -- start there.

Write an anti-vision.

Answer the above questions from the opposite perspective.

Then start saying “no” to anything that’s not in your vision or that is in your anti-vision.

Achieve exponential transformation at a rate of 10x by 80% (the bullshit) out of your life.

2. Reclaim Your Priority:

Why is it so much easier to set and achieve goals at work than it is in your personal life?

You crush it at work but can’t commit to getting to the gym 3x a week and struggle to drink less.

What most people lack isn't motivation but clarity.

Your work has taken the time to create goals for you. There are KPIs and milestones identified to measure your progress. Semi-annual performance reviews hold you accountable.

You’ve been tricked into thinking that your greatest contribution to the world happens between 9am and 5pm as you build someone else’s vision, simply because they’ve given you the clarity you require for action.

Reclaim your life by reclaiming your priority.

No longer is your job your #1 priority.

Your #1 priority is you. You are the job.

You are the scientist and the subject.

Despite what you’ve heard, it’s not selfish to put yourself first – it’s self-assured.

3. Create a Hierarchy of Goals:

Creating a big vision is essential to expand your mind and set forth on a path that you created for yourself rather than falling in (and waiting in) a line that was created for you.

It’s equally as essential to break your big vision down into achievable goals.

The 9 freedoms that impact our decision making are:

1. Self

2. Health

3. Ambitions

4. Higher Purpose 

5. Time & Schedule 

6. Financial Security 

7. Emotional Security 

8. Sex Relationships 

9. Personal Relationships

To be effective in the next six months, select the three freedoms that mean the most to you right now.

For each of these three freedoms, create:

• 10-year goals

• 1-year goals 

• Monthly goals 

• Weekly goals

Yes, this will be time-consuming.

It’s also important.

You do this to create clarity for yourself so that every day you can write down 3-5 priority tasks that move the needle toward these goals from the ground up.

To make your big goal attainable, establish them across various life freedoms.

Organize them from long-term visions to daily tasks, creating clarity and direction.

Prioritize these tasks out first thing in the morning before responsibilities and distractions have time to wake up.

4. Continuous Evolution:

One of the greatest lies we tell ourselves is that we stop learning when we leave school.

Continuous learning is a must.

Dedication to learning outside of your job or working hours is required for expansion.

It’s grow or die time.

Education broadens perspectives, elevates dopamine levels, and empowers clear action.

It exposes you to unexplored potentials, increasing the likelihood of encountering meaningful events.

To achieve any goal, enlarge your perspective. An open mind unveils new aspirations and potentials.

Education can be as easy as it is fun when you consider research as a primary source of learning:

• Try on a new name for a day

• Quit drinking (eating sugar or social media) for 72 hours 

• Read a book written by someone in a marginalized community

To evolve, change your surroundings. Shifting environments forces growth, leading to a new and improved self.

The fastest way to learn is by doing something you’ve never done before.

Our society enjoys living in a cycle of ignorant bliss and fear. They keep us convinced that the hamster wheel is the place to be. Humble yourself to what you don’t yet know and you will soon become more successful and fulfilled than 99% of people.

True learning comes from engaging in real projects. Building and learning simultaneously accelerate growth.

5. Lessons from Missteps:

Failure doesn’t exist.

If you didn’t quit you didn’t fail.

As far as I’m concerned, if you’re still breathing then you haven't quit.

Thank you for being here.

Errors are compasses for improvement. Use mistakes to steer toward better choices and outcomes.

In the mindful drinking community, there are polarizing views on what some may call “relapse”.

Some think it’s bad, others think it’s necessary.

We each get to choose the type of person we are going to be:

1. The one who falls and never gets up, or 

2. The one who falls and chooses to rise again (wiser and stronger)

It takes courage to be the latter.

It takes humility to know that mistakes are guiding markers toward better decisions.

I talk about how to build self-trust through learning in the letter: Why It Feels Impossible to Stop Drinking Forever (and Why You Don’t Have To)

The Conqueror's Cheat Code

This is how you achieve goals so fast people ask for your cheat code in the game of life:

1. Want For Wanting Sake: Acknowledge your desires without judgment; embrace envisioning an audacious future, casting a beacon into uncharted territory to illuminate your path.

2. Reclaim Your Priority: Shift the focus from work-centric achievements to personal well-being by making yourself the top priority and reclaiming control over your life. 

3. Hierarchy of Goals: Craft a big vision and break it into achievable goals, organizing them from long-term visions to daily tasks across different aspects of life. 

4. Continuous Evolution: The pursuit of education and new experiences leads to growth; humility in acknowledging what you don't know is the gateway to fulfillment and success. 

5. Lessons from Missteps: Embrace mistakes as guiding markers toward better decisions and personal growth; errors are not failures but stepping stones towards improvement and wisdom.

Thank you for reading.

Happy New Year, friends.

Jenna